Para parafrasear uma frase bem conhecida, podemos dizer que “fear for all ages”. Remember themselves young. Isn’t imagined you in a dark room a scary monster? How could you safely alone to wait out the wind and rain? When a child is afraid of specific things (or fabulous), and tells us about it, we believe that this play of his imagination, exaggerated fantasies. Try to understand, whether so it and how to teach children to cope with fears.
Útil se temores para uma pessoa?
Na psicologia há uma definição de “fear”. It’s the negative emotion that arises because of imaginary or real dangers. The body remembers the fears as well as suffering and physical pain, but as a rule, fear is felt more acutely.
O poder do medo e as experiências resultantes são muito diferentes nos adultos e nas crianças. Portanto, distinga entre um medo de algo, medo, medo, horror. Por conseguinte, o comportamento humano muda de acordo com o grau de experiência: alguns deles querem fugir, alguém se torna agressivo e protegido, por outro lado, alguém se torna um estado de torpor.
Certain types of fears for many millennia helped and continue to help the person to stay alive. And there’s no exaggeration! Yes, fear sometimes save our lives. We have a fear of heights so I do not risk to stand on the windowsill at the open window. We are afraid of depth, so do not rush to swim for the buoys. We are afraid, suspicious of strangers, so try not to walk on unfrequented alleys in the dark.
Diferentes tipos de medos em uma criança.
Os adultos, geralmente, mais rápidos, compreendem o que temem e lidam mais com os medos. As crianças podem ser muito mais difíceis de descrever o medo. Mas cuidar de pais atentos, observando o comportamento de mudança da criança, pode facilmente definir que tem medo da criança.
Existe mesmo um desenvolvimento de cadeia temporária de diferentes tipos de medos em crianças. Presumivelmente, nas crianças há um medo de ser abandonado, o que acontece quando as crianças costumam acordar à noite para não comer e verificar se a mãe está próxima, sentir o calor do corpo. Na idade de 7-8 meses, os bebês têm medo de estranhos. 2-3 anos - a sala apagada, a escuridão e os cantos escuros, ruídos altos, animais.
But fear of darkness and loneliness, in preschoolers is fear of death. Yes, for four years, when the boy finds out where babies come from, he also asks where the “leave” patients and old people. Perhaps in your family has experienced the death of a loved one. Maybe the kid was shocked from the loss of a pet. It is really difficult for a little person to question what death is. Therefore, adults need to think in advance what to tell the child on this subject. Try to be very honest, say simple words and justify your story with concrete examples (plants wither, the dog will not be able to run). From the child still does not understand much, but in any case, discovers that life is the most precious thing he has.
Pais, sem sequer perceber, você pode “inoculate” children fear anything. A simple example. Mother, who saw the usual live frog in the hands of a child (of course, in her opinion, this is the most horrible animal in the world), with disgust and grabs her with perceives face is screaming: “What a nightmare! Come on now! And never touch that abomination!” While the true reason “why not” is not specified, and the child develops hostility and fear to the frog only because mother, the closest person to me, not like this creature, and certainly tells how bad it’s been.
There’s a wonderful proverb: “fear has big eyes”. Claro, use-o em um sentido figurado ao falar sobre algo perigoso, quase insuperável, mas tudo é muito mais simples e é resolvido simplesmente.
Because often people’s fears are really large (big, great eyes), and the man is a huge effort of will to overcome them. And it takes a long time. Psychologists know a lot of good advice for parents to children have learned to overcome fears.
Invite a child to “revive” the fear in the picture. Most likely, the baby will not get a specific image, but the colors used by the child when drawing, you can see what exactly is bothering the baby. Then it is desirable to show the drawing to the psychologist to advise on how to defeat this fear.
Try to play “in fear”. Think of a fairy story in which the main character either the kid or his favorite toy. And play scenes, where fear arises, and the hero successfully overcomes.
Well try to “walk blindly” for children who fear the dark. You need to have a child was blindfolded (use a scarf bandage), and the adult or the older children helped to pass around the room or around the house to test independently all the items and “corners”.
Try to make the fantasy of the child “worked on the notion of” the good being, or talisman, talisman, which will help to defeat the evil monster. Remember that fears all children, not just big dreamers.
View with the children cartoon “no scary”. It’s a cautionary tale about the adventures of two brothers who dark night went in search of a beautiful bouquet of flowers for mom.
Mais importante ainda - não anexar a criança o apelido “the coward”. We adults often become the root cause of development of children’s fears, and then wonder why it scared the baby to sleep in a dark room, to stay even for a short time one began to stutter or shudder. The fact that children are amazingly closely intertwined reality and unreal. For example, when we read stories to children, violent in content, which have a negative character, the impressionable child this is reflected in the perception of the world. He begins to perceive the fairy tale characters as real beings. Therefore, parents should carefully observe what tales to read to children, “filter” cartoons, TV shows, which the kids can see.